In the past, sexuality was not considered an issue for any people with Down syndrome because of the inaccurate belief that intellectual disability produced permanent childhood. In fact, all people with Down syndrome have sexual feelings and intimacy needs. It is important that expression of these feelings in socially acceptable, age appropriate ways be recognized by families and caregivers. Sexuality education is the way to plan for this aspect of adulthood as it applies to independence in educational, social, residential and vocational settings.
Currently I have been thinking about individual of the first things that I ever wrote for the Internet: a series of interviews with adult virginspublished by the Hairpin. I knew my first subject personally, and, after I interviewed her, I put out an open call. To my surprise, messages came rolling in. Some of the people I talked to were virgins by choice. But he had worked hard, he told me, to advantage thinking of himself as a person who was capable of a relationship—a person who was worthy of, after that could accept, love. It is a horrible thing to feel unwanted—invisible, defective, ineligible for the things that a few person might hope for. It is also entirely possible to process a difficult social position with generosity after that grace.