This is just my personal inquiry of the wisdom I can derive at this point in my life as I work to let go of and heal from the impact of this experience.
I think that sometimes we focus so much on the differences between men and women-how we communicate, how our brains are wired, how we approach relationships-that we often forget that when we get down to it, men and women are pretty similar.
What women think men want from them often causes women to have resentment and anger towards men, leaving women to feel hopeless about ever developing a wonderful, warm, romantic partnership.
It makes everyone else in the room potential voyeurs or participants in the scene and it forces physical and mental constraints on the participants to maintain their composure so you are not found out.