A person who is demisexual experiences sexual attraction only when they feel a true emotional bond with another person. For instance, they may not feel sexually attracted to a person they randomly see at a coffee shop, but if they were to start talking to that person and form an emotional connection, they might then become sexually attracted over time. The earliest instance of the term demisexual dates back toaccording to Dictionary. Even some dating websites, such as OkCupid, allow people to select 'demisexual' when indicating their sexual orientation. Margaret Seidea board-certified psychiatrist and faculty member at New York University. An Important Distinction While it's true that many people do want to experience an emotional connection to another person before engaging in any sort of sexual intimacy, this isn't considered the same thing as being demisexual. The difference is that those who identify as demisexual cannot feel attracted to people they don't already have an emotional bond with or know on a deeper level.